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Alright… I just turned 16 last week and my twin the day after me. So I’m the oldest. I’m interested in science, primarily neuroscience, but I find psychology and wait… sexology… intriguing. I’m a science nerd. I’m not prude. I’m gorgeous, not the stereotypical geeky looking science nerd. I’m in love with my best friend who is a guy and just turned 18.
So the problem? My mom is starting to hover when it comes to being with my best friend. Our relationship is complicated. We would be dating but he’s going to college and hey, once I get there we might. We’ve discussed the future. But right now we are best friends. We trust each other. I trust him with my life and we can talk about anything. But we also make out and such when we’re together. I’m not asking anyone to question my relationship with him, rather, to help me deal with my mom.
My mom says she’s worried about us. She keeps telling me, “You can’t have sex, I’m worried you’ll get carried away by your emotions…” and etc. Okay mom. I have a 3.9 and I love science. I THINK I KNOW THAT. Also, I know that I can’t have sex now because well… I don’t want a kid right now, thanks. I understand what it means to be safe. In fact, my best friend and I have set up rules in order to prevent any urge either of us might have while we’re hanging out. We’re both rather intelligent. I thought my mom trusted me. But apparently she doesn’t. Now she’s trying to restrict me from hanging out with him… When right now is the prime time to see him as much as possible before he heads off to college! Honestly, I don’t have a lot of friends. I mean I have friends, but I like being with him the most. I talk to him the most. My inbox is filled with his texts. We’re ridiculously close. I don’t see why my mom treats him so differently just because my best friend is a guy instead of a girl. I don’t see why my mom can’t stop being paranoid and just trust me.
I figured I’d ask about condoms the other day. Just to see what she’d say and to express that if anything did happen, I’d be safe about it. Even though I guarantee I won’t even use them for at least 2 years if not more… I’d feel safer having them. But she got so upset.
To me everything seems okay. We’re not doing anything and we’re smart enough not to even if it would feel wonderful. We know we can’t. We’re not about to give up our lives for a child we don’t want. We’re NOT going to have sex. It’s illegal anyways. What can I tell my mom? Better yet, are there any articles I can email to my mom that would help me out? I feel like she’s hovering over me and trying to control me and just throwing trust out the window. What do I do????
Also, I think she saw my hickey… Actually apparently I have 3 of them… 2 of em being on my boobs… Idk how that happened. I feel like I’m screwed over in trying to tell her we’re safe. Doesn’t she understand how it feels to be a teenager? What’s a hickey compared to a baby? I’m not gonna have sex… How many times do I have to tell her???!?!?
